Come as You Are

"Love is having. Desire is wanting. And you can want only what you don’t already have."

— Emily Nagoski, Come as You Are (2015)

Come as You Are
Full title	Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Author	Emily Nagoski
Language	English
Subject	Women's sexuality; Sex education; Health & fitness
Genre	Nonfiction; Self-help
Publisher	Simon & Schuster Paperbacks
Publication date	3 March 2015
Publication place	United States
Media type	Print (paperback); e-book; audiobook
Pages	400
ISBN	978-1-4767-6210-4
Website	simonandschuster.com

Chapter summary

This outline follows the Simon & Schuster trade paperback edition, revised and updated (2 March 2021; ISBN 9781982165314). Chapter titles and part structure per library catalog record. First U.S. edition metadata: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks (2015), xi+400 pp.; ISBNs 9781476762104 (pbk.) and 9781476762098 (hc).

I – The (Not-So-Basic) Basics

🧬 1 – Anatomy: No Two Alike.

🎛️ 2 – The Dual Control Model: Your Sexual Personality.

💍 3 – Context: And the "One Ring" (to Rule Them All) in Your Emotional Brain.

II – Sex In Context

🧠 4 – Emotional Context: Sex in a Monkey Brain.

🌐 5 – Cultural Context: A Sex-Positive Life in a Sex-Negative World.

III – Sex In Action

⚡ 6 – Arousal: Lubrication Is Not Causation.

💗 7 – Desire: Spontaneous, Responsive, and Magnificent.

IV – Ecstasy For Everybody

🎆 8 – Orgasm: Pleasure Is the Measure.

🧭 9 – Love What's True: The Ultimate Sex-Positive Context.