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| isbn = 978-1-4767-6210-4
| goodreads_rating = 4.28
| goodreads_rating_date = 616 November 2025
| website = [https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314 simonandschuster.com]
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📘 '''''{{Tooltip|Come as You Are}}''''' is a nonfiction guide to women’s sexuality by sex educator {{Tooltip|Emily Nagoski}}, first published in the {{Tooltip|United States}} in 2015 and issued in a substantially revised trade paperback on 2 March 2021.<ref name="OCLC879642467" /><ref name="SS2021" /><ref name="S&SAuthor">{{cite web |title=Emily Nagoski |url=https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Emily-Nagoski/434446538 |website=Simon & Schuster |publisher=Simon & Schuster |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> It popularizes the {{Tooltip|dual control model of sexual response}}—the balance of “accelerators and brakes” (excitation and inhibition)—and explains {{Tooltip|responsive desire}} and {{Tooltip|arousal non-concordance}} in a sex-positive, evidence-driven register.<ref>{{cite news |title=Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? |url=https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/ |work=The Atlantic |date=15 December 2018 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref><ref name="GuardianNormal">{{cite news |title='You're normal!' is science's battle cry in the fight for sexual liberation |url=https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/apr/28/youre-normal-is-sciences-battle-cry-in-the-fight-for-sexual-liberation |work=The Guardian |date=27 April 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref><ref name="SS2021" /> The writing mixes research summaries, anecdotes, and exercises, and downloadable worksheets extend the book’s practical tools.<ref>{{cite news |titlename='You're"GuardianNormal" normal!' is science's battle cry in the fight for sexual liberation |url=https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/apr/28/youre-normal-is-sciences-battle-cry-in-the-fight-for-sexual-liberation |work=The Guardian |date=27 April 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Come As You Are Worksheets |url=https://www.emilynagoski.com/come-as-you-are-worksheets |website=EmilyNagoski.com |publisher=Emily Nagoski |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> The revised edition is organized into four parts and nine main chapters; this outline follows the revised trade paperback.<ref name="SS2021" /><ref name="GBTOC">{{cite web |title=Come As You Are: Revised and Updated — Contents |url=https://books.google.com/books?id=6CIZEAAAQBAJ |website=Google Books |publisher=Google |date=2 March 2021 |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref><ref name="PerlegoTOC">{{cite web |title=Come As You Are (Revised and Updated) — Table of contents |url=https://www.perlego.com/book/2174112/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-the-surprising-new-science-that-will-transform-your-sex-life-pdf |website=Perlego |publisher=Perlego |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref> The publisher promotes the title as a {{Tooltip|New York Times}} bestseller, and it has been widely covered by mainstream outlets since release, including {{Tooltip|WBUR}} and {{Tooltip|New York Magazine’s The Cut}}.<ref name="SS2021" /><ref>{{cite news |title='Come As You Are': Book Explores Old Lies And New Science On Women And Sex |url=https://www.wbur.org/news/2015/03/13/come-as-you-are-women-sex |work=WBUR News |date=13 March 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025 |last=Goldberg |first=Carey}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=The Way You Understand Your Sex Drive Is Wrong |url=https://www.thecut.com/2015/04/maybe-no-one-has-a-real-sex-drive.html |website=The Cut |publisher=New York Magazine |date=8 April 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref>
 
== Chapter summary ==
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🧬 '''1 – Anatomy: No Two Alike.''' Olivia likes to watch herself masturbate in a full-length mirror, and her comparatively large “baby carrot” clitoris led her to believe her sexuality was masculine until Emily explains there’s no link between clitoral size, hormone levels, and desire. From there the chapter zooms out to show how medieval anatomists labeled vulvas “pudendum,” meaning shame, and how culture still piles moral meaning onto neutral anatomy. Nagoski walks through biological homology: all embryos start with the same genital “prefab hardware,” which differentiates under hormones into clitoris/penis and labia/scrotum, so everyone truly has the same parts organized in different ways. She details the full clitoral structure—glans, hood, crura, and vestibular bulbs that wrap around the vaginal opening—framing it as “Grand Central Station” of erotic sensation whose only job is pleasure. Because porn and airbrushed images hide this complexity and variability, many people think their genitals are wrong when they’re just different, so she stresses that if you’re not in pain, your genitals are healthy and beautiful. In class she has students literally find their clitoris with a mirror, and the story of a fifty-four-year-old mother who had never known where hers was shows how thoroughly knowledge has been withheld. Merritt, a perimenopausal lesbian raised in conservative Christianity, can’t yet bring herself to look at her own vulva, but looking at her partner’s and talking about it exposes the mix of fear, curiosity, and cultural baggage she carries. Returning to Olivia, Nagoski shows how the idea that “everyone’s genitals are the same parts, organized in different ways” lets her drop the defensive story that she’s somehow masculine and instead feel connected to a continuum of human sexuality. The chapter closes by reminding readers that the biggest sex organ is the brain that makes meaning, and that science can strip away shame-based metaphors so people can return to the innate affection and curiosity they were born with toward their bodies. Taken together, the chapter invites readers to treat genital diversity as benign variation rather than a diagnostic test and to start sexual healing with direct, compassionate attention to their own anatomy. In place of cultural scripts that say bodies are wrong or dangerous, it offers the grounding belief that your body is normal, trustworthy, and uniquely yours. ''Knowing where your clitoris is, is power.''
 
🎛️ '''2 – The Dual Control Model: Your Sexual Personality.''' Laurie once had storybook sex with her husband Johnny—hungry, playful, and full of chemistry—but after pregnancy and a baby she finds herself craving only solo vibrator orgasms to fall asleep while feeling dead to partnered sex. She cycles through explanations—tired, depressed, broken, not really in love—while they try toys, games, and kink that sometimes work but mostly leave her sad and confused, because she can clearly orgasm alone yet can’t make herself want Johnny. To make sense of experiences like hers, Nagoski introduces the dual control model developed by Erick Janssen and John Bancroft at the Kinsey Institute, which describes sexual arousal as the result of a partnership between a Sexual Excitation System (SES) accelerator and a Sexual Inhibition System (SIS) brake. The accelerator constantly and unconsciously scans for sexually relevant sights, sounds, sensations, and ideas and sends “turn on” messages from the brain to the genitals, while the “foot brake” scans for threats like STIs, unwanted pregnancy, social consequences, or Grandma walking into the room and fires “turn off” signals in response. A second “hand brake” provides a chronic low-level “no thank you”—things like fear of failure, worry about orgasm, or performance anxiety—that doesn’t necessarily stop sex but makes getting going slower and more effortful, like driving with the parking brake on. Across people, these mechanisms vary: some have very sensitive accelerators, some highly sensitive brakes, and many different combinations, which together form a person’s sexual personality. On average men show higher SES and lower SIS and women the reverse, but the variation within each group is much larger than the difference between groups, and the more interesting patterns are how these systems interact with mood, stress, and other motivations. Nagoski describes “flatliners,” whose brakes slam on under stress and shut off interest completely, and “redliners,” whose sensitive accelerators make stress feel like fuel for wanting sex, showing that the same context can drive people in opposite directions. Characters like Camilla, who wants to initiate more often for her super-nice husband Henry, learn that they aren’t stuck with their current settings; by changing context, reducing threats, and adjusting beliefs, they can make it easier for the accelerator to do its job and the brakes to ease off. Overall, thedesire chapterstruggles reframesare desire strugglesreframed not as evidence of brokenness or bad relationships but as predictable outcomes of how each person’s excitation and inhibition systems are tuned in the environment they inhabit. Understanding those systems gives readers practical leverage: instead of trying to will themselves into wanting sex, they can experiment with turning on more of the ons and turning off more of the offs. ''In essence, that’s all the dual control model is: the brakes and the accelerator.''
 
💍 '''3 – Context: And the "One Ring" (to Rule Them All) in Your Emotional Brain.''' To show how context can flip our reactions, Nagoski tells the “sex, rats, and rock ’n’ roll” story: in a three-chamber box, researchers zap a rat’s nucleus accumbens while Iggy Pop blares, and in a familiar bright lab the top of this region produces “What’s this?” approach behavior while the bottom produces “What the hell is this?” avoidance, but in a quiet spa-like chamber the same bottom-zap suddenly produces approach, proving that safety and stress radically alter how the same brain signal feels. She uses this as a bridge to the emotional “One Ring” in the mesolimbic system—ventral pallidum, nucleus accumbens, amygdala, and friends—that handles three intertwined processes she calls enjoying, expecting, and eagerness and that processes all emotions, from stress and disgust to love and sex, in the same place. Because the One Ring is always running, it constantly decides whether to move us toward or away from stimuli, so the same touch, smell, or fantasy can register as sexy, neutral, or threatening depending on what else the system is juggling. Everyday vignettes bring this home: before pregnancy, a partner’s wandering hands during a cozy bedtime cuddle activate expecting, enjoyment, and eagerness that lead smoothly into sex; two months after childbirth the identical touch on a sleep-deprived, lactating, still-healing body instead activates expecting plus dread and eagerness to avoid, so the same gesture gets a weary “Honey, not tonight.” She notes that similar shifts happen around other life events like grief, betrayal, job loss, or joyful changes like deciding to conceive or renewing vows, because the One Ring is always integrating stress, attachment, and meaning. When stress is high, almost anything will push eagerness into an avoidant “What the hell is this?” mode, while in a sex-positive context—which tends to be low stress, high affection, and explicitly erotic—almost anything can become a curious “What’s this?” turn-on. The chapter emphasizes that each woman’s sex-positive context is unique and evolves over her life, so the goal is to notice patterns rather than chase a universal formula, and Nagoski provides worksheets to map three great and three not-so-great sexual experiences in terms of external circumstances and internal state. She introduces couples like Olivia and Patrick, where her stress-sensitive accelerator and his stress-sensitive brakes create a “shit show” chasing dynamic in which mismatched contexts and self-blame escalate everyone’s stress. Coaching them to make simple agreements when they’re calm and then follow the plan during crunchy times shows how deliberately designing context can protect both desire and connection. Overall, the chapter argues that sensations are inherently ambiguous and that the emotional One Ring interprets them as erotic, annoying, or threatening based on the surrounding context and competing motivations. By becoming expert gardeners of context—reducing chronic stress, increasing affection and trust, and cultivating explicitly erotic frames—people can help their brains shift from avoidance to curiosity and open more consistent access to sexual pleasure. ''Pleasure is context dependent.''
 
=== II – Sex In Context ===
 
🧠 '''4 – Emotional Context: Sex in a Monkey Brain.''' Merritt’s story opens the chapter: a careful, traumatized woman who writes explicit gay male BDSM fiction can spend hours fantasizing, yet during sex with her partner Carol the tiniest noise, fingernail, or stray thought makes her body shut down, leaving her wondering why she can’t trust it.:contentReference[oaicite:0]{index=0} Nagoski explains that Merritt’s “sensitive brakes” are tied to the fight/flight/freeze stress system, which evolved to help our “monkey brain” survive lions and knife-wielding attackers, not inboxes and awkward conversations.:contentReference[oaicite:1]{index=1} She walks readers through the stress response cycle with the image of running from a lion, rallying the village to kill it, and then feeling the huge relief of being alive—the complete arc from “I am at risk” to “I am safe.”:contentReference[oaicite:2]{index=2} When the cycle is interrupted, as in freeze, the body stores adrenaline and terror until it can shake, sob, move, and finally sigh it out, like wild animals trembling after escaping a predator or a child thrashing as anesthesia wears off.:contentReference[oaicite:3]{index=3} Chronic, unfinished stress cycles make the brain more likely to label neutral or even erotic cues as threats, which is why stress, depression, and anxiety reliably dampen sexual interest, arousal, and orgasm for most women.:contentReference[oaicite:4]{index=4} For trauma survivors, sexually relevant stimuli can become tightly linked with danger, so that whenever the accelerator fires the brake slams on too, and mindfulness plus completing the stress cycle become key tools for gently uncoupling them.:contentReference[oaicite:5]{index=5} The chapter then turns to attachment, the love system that pulls us from “I am broken” toward “I am whole,” showing how sex can either heal or intensify our deepest fears of being abandoned or unlovable.:contentReference[oaicite:6]{index=6} When stress, attachment, and sex activate together, we may end up using sex as “sex that advances the plot,” seeking contact that helps us move from “I am lost” to “I am home,” or we may find our plots hijacked by anxiety and conflict.:contentReference[oaicite:7]{index=7} Overall, the chapter argues that becauseBecause stressed brains interpret almost everything as a potential threat while securely attached brains are primed to recognize safety, completing stress cycles and cultivating safe emotional bonds are foundational sexual skills, notrather than luxuries. ItThe chapter invites readers to see stress management, self-compassion, and trustworthy love as ways to improve sexual wellbeing even if nothing about technique or partners changes, since context—not just sex acts—teaches the body whether it is at risk or at home. *''To have more and better sex, reduce your stress levels.*:contentReference[oaicite:8]{index=8}''
 
🌐 '''5 – Cultural Context: A Sex-Positive Life in a Sex-Negative World.''' Johnny and Laurie’s experiment in not having sex begins this chapter: after months of exhausted, pressured postpartum intercourse, they switch to nightly cuddling with no expectation of penetration, until one quiet evening Laurie asks why he likes having sex with her and he answers, “Because you’re beautiful,” then gently touches every “droopy,” “squishy,” or “cottage-cheesy” part of her body as she cries.:contentReference[oaicite:9]{index=9} In that moment she realizes how deeply she has internalized cultural messages that her aging, postpartum body is a moral failure instead of the body of the woman he loves, and the release of that shame makes space for spontaneous, joyful sex that feels like love rather than obligation.:contentReference[oaicite:10]{index=10} Nagoski then zooms out to show how a sex-negative culture delivers three corrosive messages—your body is not good enough, sex is dirty or dangerous, and your pleasure matters less—which train women into chronic self-criticism, body hatred, and vigilance about being “too much” or “not enough.”:contentReference[oaicite:11]{index=11} Because self-criticism is itself a form of stress, these messages feed directly into the sexual brakes by increasing anxiety, distracting attention from pleasure, and even contributing to sexual pain disorders.:contentReference[oaicite:12]{index=12} She illustrates how disgust around genitals, fluids, smells, and sweat is largely learned—passed down by parents, peers, religion, and media—and how sex educators deliberately undergo Sexual Attitude Reassessment training so they can stop “yucking anybody’s yum” and respond to all consensual sex with neutral curiosity.:contentReference[oaicite:13]{index=13} To help readers build their own sex-positive bubble inside a sex-negative world, Nagoski offers three science-backed tools: self-compassion practices that replace harsh inner commentary with kindness, cognitive-dissonance-based actions that let you behave as if you already believe your body is worthy, and “media nutrition” that limits exposure to shaming messages while seeking out diverse, joyful representations of bodies and sex.:contentReference[oaicite:14]{index=14} Throughout, she returns to the mantra “You do you,” emphasizing that embracing your authentic desires, boundaries, and tastes—including what turns you off—is the antidote to cultural scripts that try to dictate what “normal” or “good” sex should be. The chapter’s core claim is that culture is part of sexual context: when we stop criticizing our bodies, reject learned disgust, and surround ourselves with affirming stories, we remove a massive, unnecessary foot from the brakes and make it easier for pleasure, connection, and desire to emerge on their own. *''What if your body is cause for celebration?*:contentReference[oaicite:15]{index=15}''
 
=== III – Sex In Action ===
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== Background & reception ==
 
🖋️ '''Author & writing'''. {{Tooltip|Emily Nagoski}} is a sex educator with an MS in counseling and a PhD in health behavior ({{Tooltip|Indiana University}}), with clinical and research training at the {{Tooltip|Kinsey Institute}}; she previously served as director of wellness education at {{Tooltip|Smith College}}.<ref name="S&SAuthor" /><ref>{{cite web |title=about emily — Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. |url=https://www.emilynagoski.com/the-facts |website=EmilyNagoski.com |publisher=Emily Nagoski |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Archive of 2008–09 People News |url=https://www.smith.edu/news-stories/people/200809.php |website=Smith College |publisher=Smith College |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> The book synthesizes contemporary sex science for general readers, centering context effects, the dual control model, and distinctions among arousal, desire, pleasure, and consent.<ref name="SS2021" /> The dual control framework traces to work by John Bancroft and Erick Janssen and remains an active research area.<ref name="Janssen2023">{{cite journal |last=Janssen |first=Erick |author2=Bancroft, John |date=2 June 2023 |title=The Dual Control Model of Sexual Response: A Scoping Review, 2009–2022 |journal=Annual ReviewJournal of Sex Research (Society|volume=60 for the Scientific Study of Sexuality)|issue=7 |pages=1–27948–968 |doi=10.1080/00224499.2023.2219247 |url=https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37267113/ |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> Reviewers noted the book’s friendly, accessible tone and clear visuals, emphasizing its “you-are-normal” message.<ref>{{cite news |titlename='You're"GuardianNormal" normal!' is science's battle cry in the fight for sexual liberation |url=https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/apr/28/youre-normal-is-sciences-battle-cry-in-the-fight-for-sexual-liberation |work=The Guardian |date=27 April 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> Practical tools are reinforced by official worksheets hosted on the author’s site.<ref>{{cite web |title=Come As You Are Worksheets |url=https://www.emilynagoski.com/come-as-you-are-worksheets |website=EmilyNagoski.com |publisher=Emily Nagoski |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref>
 
📈 '''Commercial reception'''. The first U.S. edition was published by {{Tooltip|Simon & Schuster Paperbacks}} in 2015 (400 pp.; ISBN 978-1-4767-6210-4), with library records confirming the bibliographic details; a revised and updated trade paperback followed on 2 March 2021 (400 pp.).<ref name="OCLC879642467" /><ref name="CCCL2015" /><ref name="SS2021" /> The publisher promotes the title as a {{Tooltip|New York Times}} bestseller.<ref name="SS2021" /> International editions appeared with {{Tooltip|Scribe}} in 2015 for {{Tooltip|Australia}} and the {{Tooltip|UK}} markets.<ref>{{cite web |title=Come as You Are |url=https://scribepublications.com.au/books/come-as-you-are |website=Scribe Publications (AU) |publisher=Scribe Publications |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Come as You Are |url=https://scribepublications.co.uk/books/come-as-you-are |website=Scribe Publications (UK) |publisher=Scribe Publications |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref>
 
👍 '''Praise'''. In {{Tooltip|The Guardian}}, {{Tooltip|Van Badham}} praised the book’s merger of pop science and sexual self-help “in prose that’s not insufferably twee,” adding that it offers “hard facts on the science of arousal and desire” in a friendly way (27 April 2015).<ref>{{cite news |titlename='You're normal!' is science's battle cry in the fight for sexual liberation |url=https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/apr/28/youre-normal-is-sciences-battle-cry-in-the-fight-for-sexual-liberation |work=The Guardian |date=27 April 2015 |access-date=19 October"GuardianNormal" 2025}}</ref> {{Tooltip|WBUR}} (Boston’s {{Tooltip|NPR}} newsroom) highlighted the book’s myth-busting approach and predicted it would be a pivotal read for many (13 March 2015).<ref>{{cite news |title='Come As You Are': Book Explores Old Lies And New Science On Women And Sex |url=https://www.wbur.org/news/2015/03/13/come-as-you-are-women-sex |work=WBUR News |date=13 March 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025 |last=Goldberg |first=Carey}}</ref> {{Tooltip|Salon}}’s interview with Nagoski called it a rare sex-advice book that “actually has it” — lasting value beyond quick fixes (6 March 2015).<ref>{{cite news |title=Forget female Viagra: This new book dismantles stubborn myths about women and sexual desire |url=https://www.salon.com/2015/03/06/forget_female_viagra_this_new_book_dismantles_stubborn_myths_about_women_and_sexual_desire/ |work=Salon |date=6 March 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025 |last=Clark-Flory |first=Tracy}}</ref>
 
👎 '''Criticism'''. Even positive reviewers noted stylistic tics; {{Tooltip|The Guardian}} mentioned “a few too many gardening metaphors.”<ref>{{cite news |titlename='You're"GuardianNormal" normal!' is science's battle cry in the fight for sexual liberation |url=https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/apr/28/youre-normal-is-sciences-battle-cry-in-the-fight-for-sexual-liberation |work=The Guardian |date=27 April 2015 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> Some reviewers observed that the book primarily addresses cisgender women, reflecting limits of available research on trans populations at the time; they argue that readers seeking broader LGBTQ+ coverage may find scope constraints.<ref>{{cite web |title=Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski |url=https://smartbitchestrashybooks.com/reviews/come-as-you-are-by-emily-nagoski/ |website=Smart Bitches, Trashy Books |publisher=Smart Bitches, Trashy Books LLC |date=23 June 2023 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref> Scholars also caution that evidence underpinning the dual control model—a framework the book popularizes—continues to evolve, with calls for further measurement refinement and population-diverse research.<ref>{{cite journal |lastname=Janssen"Janssen2023" |first=Erick |author2=Bancroft, John |date=2023 |title=The Dual Control Model of Sexual Response: A Scoping Review, 2009–2022 |journal=Annual Review of Sex Research (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) |pages=1–27 |url=https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37267113/ |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref>
 
🌍 '''Impact & adoption'''. The book extended into an eight-part audio series, the {{Tooltip|''Come As You Are'' podcast}}, announced for 16 November 2022 and released with early episodes in mid-November 2022 by {{Tooltip|Pushkin Industries}}/{{Tooltip|Madison Wells}}.<ref>{{cite news |title='Come as You Are' Podcast Set From Madison Wells, Pushkin |url=https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/lifestyle/lifestyle-news/come-as-you-are-book-set-podcast-emily-nagoski-1235253545/ |work=The Hollywood Reporter |date=2 November 2022 |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Come As You Are — Podcast on Apple Podcasts (show page) |url=https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/come-as-you-are/id1628661035 |website=Apple Podcasts |publisher=Apple Inc. |date=16 November 2022 |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=CAYA E2 Transcript |url=https://www.pushkin.fm/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/CAYA-E2-Transcript.pdf |website=Pushkin Industries |publisher=Pushkin Industries |date=16 November 2022 |access-date=6 November 2025}}</ref> It appears on higher-education syllabi and resource lists, including {{Tooltip|Wesleyan University}}’s Summer 2024 graduate seminar materials, the {{Tooltip|University of Florida}}’s Spring 2025 “Sexuality in Mental Health” course, and {{Tooltip|Western Washington University}}’s 2024 campus consent guide.<ref>{{cite web |title=SCIE 601 (Summer 2024) — Syllabus sample readings |url=https://www.wesleyan.edu/masters/courses/Summer_2024/syllabi_summer_2024/syb_scie601.pdf |website=Wesleyan University |publisher=Wesleyan University |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Sexuality in Mental Health — Spring 2025 Syllabus |url=https://my.education.ufl.edu/course-syllabi/fetch.php?id=6356 |website=University of Florida |publisher=University of Florida |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=The Consent Guide Book |url=https://cwc.wwu.edu/files/2024-04/wwu_consent_booklet_web.pdf |website=Western Washington University |publisher=Western Washington University |date=April 2024 |access-date=19 October 2025}}</ref>
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